Showing posts with label childhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label childhood. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Advice is Overrated--Encouragement Isn't


I am honored and blessed to have Tim Fall writing for me today!  Tim's blog is Just One Train Wreck After Another, where he writes about faith, family, books, and life as a Christian judge in California.  Tim is known for his encouraging blog comments, and I hope you are as blessed by this post as I have been.


[My son K is 22 and recently graduated from UC Berkeley. My daughter J is 20 and a third year student at UC San Diego. A lot of parents write advice letters to their young adult children, laying out what they want their children to learn. I'm not one of those parents. Instead, I'm writing them a letter pointing out what they've already learned.]

How old were each of you when you first left the country on a missions trip? 9, 10? Something like that. We all traveled together to Mexico to serve in one of the poorest places I've ever seen. K, we took you with us for the first couple trips, and J you joined us for several trips after that.

And then you went overseas on your own mission trips. You still do.

K, you even went on one all by yourself without a missions team. Seriously, Vietnam on your own? I know you'd been there twice before with a team, but to hop a plane and get to work with the organization over there without any team training or support was impressive. And now you are preparing to return as head of a team you are putting together to minister to the people you've met there over the years.

J, those trips to western and eastern Europe and into Israel started while you were in high school. Then South Africa came along, but you weren't going as a member of the team. You led the team. And this summer you are going to do it again.

So I said this was about what you have learned. Here goes:

You've learned how to take initiative: Mom and I never asked you to go on these trips, never even brought up going on overseas missions. You thought of it, you explored it and you figured out how to get it done. It may not have always happened the way you expected, but it happened. And you learned that God has some great plans for you, even better than your own.


Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. (Proverbs 19:21.)

You've learned to adapt: J, when your co-leader in charge of logistics had to back out 2 days before leaving last year, you and the other program leader stepped up and took on the duty, all while handling all your own responsibilities. K, you knew you had several weeks in a foreign land without anyone your age that you knew so you went to the coffee-house and made some friends, good friends that you loved to hang out and play music with even if you didn't speak each others' languages all that well.


So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
(Isaiah 41:10.)

You've learned to trust God: K, when you were 17 and started team training for that first trip to Vietnam, you didn't know anyone else, student or adult. But you trusted that God had put you there and that he would see you through. J, when you were getting ready to fly off to training for your last trip to Europe and got so sick you could barely stand, you trusted that God would work it out so you could still go, even if it meant joining the team late. God saw both of you through those times and so many more.


Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will direct your paths.
(Proverbs 3:5-6.)

You've learned the God's word is not only powerful, but a joy: K and J, each of you have learned over the years how to study God's word. I wish I could take credit for that, but it's really your own relationships with God that have drawn you deeper into his word. I get to have the fun of talking about Scripture and doctrine and theology with you, and often you are the ones who bring up points I've never thought through. This is a joy for us in talking about it, and I can tell that you get a kick out of reading his word and studying what theologians and other writers have to say about it for yourself too.


When your words came, I ate them; they were my joy and my heart’s delight, for I bear your name, Lord God Almighty. (Jeremiah 15:16.)

There's more of course, but I hope you've learned one more thing in particular. Mom and I are not only proud of you, but we are so pleased for you in your relationships with God and the people he has put in your lives. I told you when you were young and I'll tell you now:

K - you are my wonderful boy.

J - you are my wonderful girl.

And your wonderfulness has nothing to do with whether you've learned anything at all. Your wonderfulness has everything to do with the fact that you are blessings from God.


[For those reading this who aren't K & J, please know that your heavenly Father is even more pleased with you than I am with my kids. He loves you eternally and without limit, and I hope that encourages your socks off.]

Tim is a California native who changed his major three times, colleges four times, and took six years to get a Bachelor’s degree in a subject he’s never been called on to use professionally. Married for over 25 years with two kids (one in college and one just graduated, woo-hoo!), his family is constant evidence of God’s abundant blessings in his life. He and his wife live in Northern California. Tim blogs here.

Saturday, April 13, 2013

L~ Literature

I could have written about so many things today!  "L" is an easy letter.

Legalist...what, if it wasn't for the grace of God, I would most certainly be.  (Life isn't about me and what I do, it's about GOD and what he does!)

Love...in all its wonderful forms.  Of God, of my husband, of my family and friends.

Light...of Christ--and living in it.  For obvious reasons.

But this afternoon I did something I haven't for a long time, and as a result I realized what I wanted to write about.

Literature.

As a child and teenager, I would often spend hours at a time reading--historical fiction, inspirational novels, books like Little Women and Pride and Prejudice and the entire Mitford series by Jan Karon.  One of my favorite historical-fiction series was the "Dear America" series.  These books were written from the point of view of fictional girls who lived in real historical places and experienced major events in history.  I owned three, and the rest I got from the library.  In these books I could experience the life of a girl traveling the Oregon Trail, another girl who lived through the Revolutionary War, one who was on the Titanic and survived, and a Black girl moving to Chicago from down south in the 1960's.  At our school's annual Scholastic book sale last week I bought a new one, about a girl living in California in 1880, during the gold mining era.

This afternoon, after coming home from work and getting some groceries with my hubby, I spent a bit more than two hours reading all the way through this book (a little over 200 pages long).  Granted, it's pretty easy reading, and I'm a really fast reader.  But my husband was impressed. :)

It's been a while since I got that lost in a story--completely unaware of what was going on around me, immersed in the lives of the characters.  The story has already burned itself into my mind so that thinking back on what I read, it feels like my own memories.  Like they're people I knew, having experiences that I shared.  And when I put that book down, it was almost like I was saying goodbye to friends I wouldn't see again for a very long time.

Have you ever experienced anything like that?  The magic of good literature?  I'm so glad that I was exposed to many good books as a child.  As a result, my life has been fuller, my imagination has been enlivened, and my knowledge of the world enriched--just through the power of books.

Friday, July 20, 2012

The Nine Most Influential Authors of My Childhood

I have loved books ever since I was very small.  My parents can take the credit for instilling that love in me.  Words on a page have always fascinated me; I've been reading since the age of four.  As I grew in confidence as a reader, I would devour almost any book I could get my hands on.  Luckily, my parents, knowing good literature, provided me with quality books that made a positive impact one me.

I have no idea how many books I've read in, well, seventeen years.  The authors below have been the most influential in my life up till this point, and I still love their books and read them often.
I won't give much information about each author themselves.  The names are all links to biographical information, and I've included links to some other interesting sites as well.  Fair warning--this is a long post!

Laura Ingalls Wilder  When I was small, playing dress-up was one of my favorite activities.  More often than not, I played I was Laura Ingalls Wilder.  Her books fed my imagination.  If I could have gone back in time, it would have been to visit Laura.  The stories she wrote are easy enough to read for small children, and fascinating enough for older ones.  She is a master at storytelling, detail, and bringing places and people to vivid life.  I grew up with Laura, and now I love reading the books about her teen years, courtship with the wonderful Almanzo, and early marriage (Little Town on the Prairie, These Happy Golden Years, and The First Four Years).  At the age of seven I had one of the greatest thrills of my life when I visited Laura's birthplace in Pepin, Wisconsin.  That was an experience I'll never forget!

Jane Austen  Thanks to high school literature (credit to my mother) and two beloved friends who were, well, rather obsessed with Jane in high school (Janan and Emily!), I finally watched the five-hour movie of Pride and Prejudice my freshman year and read the book not long after that.  I have since read it several times over, and I have also read Sense and Sensibility, Emma, and Persuasion.  Someday I'll get to Northanger Abbey and Mansfield Park.  I also own the more recent, shorter version of Pride and Prejudice, the movie with Matthew McFayden and Kiera Knightley, and Sense and Sensibility with Emma Thompson.  They're all great movies!

Jane Austen's books are absolutely timeless.  The themes are still as applicable today as they were when they were written.  They're lovely romances, hilarious comedies, and serious dramas, all rolled into one.  Not for the faint of heart, but most certainly for the romantic.  (More about Jane Austen on this website for fans.)

Jan Karon  Ms. Karon has written quite a few books in the last not-quite-two decades, most notably The Mitford Years, a series of nine books covering ten years in the life of an Episcopal priest, Father Tim Kavanagh.  I believe it was my paternal grandmother who introduced my mom and me to these books when I was in middle school, and I have loved them ever since.  They take place in a charming fictional village, Mitford, North Carolina (which is based on the real-life village of Blowing Rock), and the characters are all so real, so endearing, and so relatable.  Reading a Mitford book feels like going home.  Father Tim is a devoted Christian, and Jan includes many wonderful sermons, prayers, and Christian life, so the books are nourishing to the soul and faith as well as the mind.  She also writes about food a lot, which sparked the creation of the amazing Mitford Cookbook and Kitchen Reader.  My mom and grandmother both have copies, and someday I'll add it to my own collection.

C. S. Lewis  The Narnia books took me a little while to get into, but then my parents bought me a beautiful hardcover edition of The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe with gorgeous full-cover illustrations and a ribbon bookmark.  I've read it so many times that the bookmark is well-frayed.  As I got older I read the rest of the books in the series.  Lion remains my favorite, but the last book, The Last Battle, is AMAZING because of so many Biblical references.  Now that I'm older I can appreciate the Biblical analogy much more than when I was little.  I remember watching the old BBC movies with friends when I was about six, and I really love the new movie versions as well.  Other books by Lewis, notably his Space Trilogy (starting with Out of the Silent Planet) have also been favorites.  His theological works are fantastic--I read The Screwtape Letters in high school.

Louisa May Alcott  Ah, Miss Alcott.  After studying more about the religious views of her and her father, I've approached her works with a little more caution (let's just say they were friends of Thoreau and the like), but Little Women had such an impact on my young girlhood.  I always identified most with Jo, but I wanted to be good, kind and obedient like Beth, and a hard worker like Meg and Jo both were.  The movie version of this, with Susan Sarandon playing Marmee, always delights and moves me.  Another book of Alcott's that inspired me greatly was Eight Cousins.  The main character, Rose, is a delightful young lady and such a good moral example--but still real enough to relate to.  The sequel to Eight Cousins is Rose in Bloom.  I also loved Little Men and Jo's Boys, sequels to Little Women.  (For more on L. M. Alcott, visit here.)

Corrie ten Boom  Her book The Hiding Place is still one of my favorites!  Not for the squeamish, it includes a fair bit of detail about life in the Nazi concentration camps of WWII.  And if you're wondering, I didn't read this for the first time till about eighth grade.  WWII has always fascinated me, especially stories about life on the home front in Europe and the US.  The Holocaust is also a really interesting, albeit heart-wrenching, aspect of WWII.  The most amazing and inspiring part of this book, however, is the faith that was exhibited by Corrie, her sister Betsie, and their entire family throughout the incredibly difficult circumstances they endured.  Reading this book taught me to be thankful in all circumstances, to have complete faith in God even when nothing is going right, and to stand up for what I believe in at all costs.  (More about Corrie and The Hiding Place here.)

Lucy Maud Montgomery  I have loved the Anne books for quite some time!  Like with Laura Ingalls Wilder, I feel like I've grown up with Anne, and my favorite books in the series now are the ones about her early marriage (except that Anne is fictional while Laura is not).  These books are funny, lively, touching, emotional, and real.  I always felt like I really knew all the characters.  It was fascinating to read through the series and see Anne grow from a little girl to a young woman.  Her friendships, her relationships with difficult people, her courtship, and her marriage all were realistic but also a good example.  Anne is a very pure-hearted character, and I think that's one of the things I really loved about her.  She wasn't too perfect by any means, but she was someone I looked up to in a way.  (More about L.M. Montgomery here.)

Lois Lowry  Books like The Giver and Number the Stars got worn out eventually because I read them so many times.  The Giver is absolutely fascinating, but weird.  I would recommend it, but I encourage parents to read it first before letting their children read it.  It's about a Utopian society, and includes elements like government-arranged marriage, euthanasia (once people are too old to be of use to the community, they are "Released"--killed) and what is basically post-birth abortion--if a baby is a twin (they can't have duplicates) the smaller one is "Released."  However, the book's redeeming quality is that it makes clear that this kind of society is wrong.  It's a really great story, and can encourage some fantastic discussion between parents and children.  As a youngster (again, didn't read this till at least middle school) some of the details kind of went over my head; I realize how serious it is now as a young adult.

Number the Stars is another WWII book that takes place in Europe (Denmark, to be exact), this one about a young Christian girl and her Jewish best friend who has to go into hiding.  It's a fast, easy read, but it's very historically accurate (for historical fiction), a fun and moving story, and historically fascinating.

Frances Hodgson Burnett  Burnett's two most famous books are The Secret Garden and The Little Princess.  Both of these were favorites of mine as a child.  Both are about a little girl born in India, and include elements of Hinduism that troubled me a bit when I was little (especially in The Secret Garden), but that is the only caution I have about them.  Mary in The Secret Garden is an orphaned little girl who has to learn to live and love.  A gruff old gardener, a boy full of life, and a mysterious cousin help her do both.  Sara in The Little Princess is motherless but beloved by her father--until, while at a boarding school in England, she receives news that her soldier father has been killed in the line of duty.  When circumstances in her life change drastically, she learns to rise above them, keeping sweet and humble and remembering that her father always told her she was a princess, no matter what.

Both these girls had something to teach me.  A person doesn't have to be defined by their situation--you define yourself.  And you can't hide from real life.  You have to face it, make the most of it, and learn from it.  There isn't a strong Christian message in either of these stories, but they are delightful and thoughtful books.  (More about Burnett and her books here.)


If you've stuck with me this far, congratulations!!  I could have written about so many other authors and books, but this is enough for now.  I hope that what I've written will be interesting, informative and useful for you and/or your children.

Talk with me: what were the most influential books and authors of your childhood?  Share in the comments!


Linking with: Your Thriving Family; Consider the Lilies; Susan Godfrey; finding joy